Child welfare reform on horizon

I recently became aware that the federal government did a review of North Carolina’s child welfare system.  They looked at seven child welfare outcomes and seven systemic factors.  Our state system failed in all 14 areas. Continue reading…  ...

Aiding Transition to Adulthood

The Children & Family Resource Center will celebrate as 20 teen parents, who have been in our Adolescent Parenting Program, walk across the stage to receive their diplomas. This is our largest ever graduating class. Graduation day is a significant achievement for every student, and given the obstacles some of these teens have had to overcome, we are particularly proud. Continue...

Help us prevent child abuse

I don’t know why I got to be one of the lucky people born into a family of love, but I was. I recently spent time with my two living grandparents. My paternal granddaddy is 89, and my maternal grandma is 85. They are members of “the Greatest Generation.” Both have experienced poverty firsthand, living through the Great Depression. They have lived and served during times of war and have faced head-on domestic violence, substance abuse, divorce, mental illness, chronic illness and the death of spouses. Issues that tear many people down somehow made these two better. Continue reading…...

Tiers System Impacts Children

I’ve heard it said that if you look at where you spend your money, it will show your priorities. I have two: my children (big kids are expensive) and Diet Mountain Dew, which I’m trying desperately to give up but think about all the time. I just love that stuff! North Carolina spends a lot of money across 100 counties. How that money is allocated is sometimes based on complex funding formulas. One such tool is the tiers system that was developed in 1996 as an economic development tool to create tax incentives for new and expanding businesses in North Carolina. Continue reading…...

Resilience Helps Avert Abuse

I keep running across this story of resilience where a young woman is telling her mother about some problems in her life. While she is talking, her mother boils three pots of water. In one pot she places carrots, in another she places an egg, and in the third coffee beans. After twenty minutes of boiling, she asks her daughter to tell her what she sees. The carrots went into the water hard but had turned soft. The egg looked the same but had become hard inside. The coffee transformed into something delicious and aromatic — better than it was before. All three experienced the same situation of heat, trauma and 20 minutes in boiling water. The mother told her daughter that her trials were like the boiling water…. Click here to continue...

A resolution on behalf of kids

Happy New Year! I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to tuck 2016 away for the memory book. The year was full of loss mingled in with blessings. That’s just life, I suppose. I’m choosing to focus on the latter. For a variety of reasons, this isn’t always the most magical time of year for me. Even though I long ago gave up making resolutions, every time I usher in a new year, I’m convinced THIS will the year of great things for me — when I correct all my flaws, life will go as planned, I’ll be skinny and fit, a perfect mom and friend, happy in love, out of debt, and run a home that never gets messy. You, too?...